We may be quick to judge our partners but how about some self-introspection instead? Below is a set of questions that attempt to challenge the way we think, about ourselves. Regardless of your partner, just how good a lover are you? Remember, a bitter truth may be like a bitter medicine that only serves to help you get better in the longer run. Accepting reality happens to be the only way to develop your relationship skills. So go ahead, and attempt the quiz!
There’s nothing attractive about solitude. We all seek companionship, regardless of what we may appear to be on the outside. Humans are social beings and we all desire that special someone we can be ourselves with, whose presence completes the incompleteness of our lives. The pursuit of an ideal soul mate, that idyllic romantic partner lending emotional security and help turn our wildest of dreams into a living reality, is incredibly challenging. True love can be quite a gamble and by no means is it easy. Even people in relationships can’t help but wonder whether their partner is indeed the right one for them. How can you possibly know?
Questioning your bond doesn’t necessarily mean doubting, it helps you monitor the health of your relationship. Once you are able to discern the areas of concern, it’s easier to work on ways that improve your communication and the overall happiness quotient with your partner. Even when meeting someone new, it's always a good idea to examine their intentions and read between the lines. This may pose a challenge at the outset when you’re bound to get carried away with hormones dancing with joy. But in your rapture, you may overlook judging the basic parameters that make for a happy enduring relationship in the longer run.
You're probably wondering where to start. Are you in a relationship currently? Are you looking for love but caught in a dilemma of choosing between two or more people? Are you simply unable to encounter that special someone at all? Well, below are some basic questions you can ask yourself to discover the truth of just how suited you and your partner are for each other. And for those currently single, measure the health of your previous relationship to improve your chances next time round.
The ensuring questionnaire offers a serious attempt to take an honest look at yourself and your relationship. I’d strongly advise not to rush through it. Instead, invest time and thought about your practical day-to-day life and whether the relationship you are in genuinely fulfills yours and your partner's needs. There’s no point in prolonging a lifeless relationship generating zilch returns, leaving both partners devoid of gratification.
Encountering unsatisfactory results in no way insinuate at the relationship being entirely meaningless, so don’t be disheartened. This is only an opportunity for you to awaken to the susceptible loopholes that you can then plug. Whatever the case, the wellbeing of the relationship thus only stands to benefit. Be wary of your ego making inroads during the test, as it’ll destroy the effect intended.
Just like their totem, the Virgin, a Virgo is loving, selfless and pure while also hugely passionate and intense. You seek care, sensitivity, encouragement and faithfulness in your relationships. Quite unsurprisingly so, your ideal partner needs to be fully committed to being in your life, never attempting to take your unconditional love for a ride.
Mentioned below is a check list for you Virgo, to ascertain if he or she is indeed the right one for you.
- Does he/she appreciate you for your mind as well as your body?
- Does he/she generate passion and emotional comfort?
- Does he/she acknowledge your selflessness being such a blessing to them?
- Is he/she attentive to critical conversations initiated by you?
- Is he/she a smart, well groomed and neat person?
- Does he/she maintain a high standard of personal hygiene and cleanliness?
- Is he/she judicious with money?
- Does he/she unhesitatingly open up their heart to you?
- Does he/she respect your occasional need for solitude?
- Does he/she captivate your attention?
- Is he/she supportive and encouraging of your ideals in equal measure as you are towards theirs?
- Does he/she communicate without disrespecting you and works to create harmony?
- Does he/she have a methodical way of working that makes you feel in tune with them?
- Does he/she enjoy quiet moments with you in peaceful surroundings?
- Does he/she long for travel with you, mutually discovering little facts about the world over?
- Does he/she devote some time towards spiritual practices or self-development?
The score below is most accurate provided your answers are equally honest. Take a call on your intuition if unsure about a certain answer. Of course, there’s no room for pretense if you desire a realistic understanding of your answers.
Score Board – Score depending on the number of YES secured.
8-16 Great going. This match clearly shows you and your partner enjoy a healthy understanding where your partner reciprocates just the way you need. However, this is no reason to slacken out of complacency. You must continue working and improving your bond to make it shine even more brilliantly than it does now.
5-7 Half-hearted attempt. You need to work hard at building your relationship and engage in an honest self-examination of the person at fault. It takes two to tango so you’re obviously aware that your relationship is a victim of a combination of both your attitudes put together. Systematically go through each question, making notes of areas where you can improve yourself. Undertaking this self-examination with sincerity will guarantee favourable shifts in your relationship. But if things refuse to improve in spite of the effort, it may be time for you to rethink your future with this person.
0-4 On the rocks. Sorry, I didn’t have better news for you Aries, but this relationship is completely devoid of the foundation of basic mutual respect and understanding, your mainstay. It's likely that the two of you other argue a lot. Your partners also completely oblivious to the sort of lifestyle and emotional needs you desire. Perfect example of incompatibility at its best. The big question I’d like to ask, how and why are you still with this person?
Again, this requires some brutally honest self-examination on your part. You need to see whether there is some inherent insecurity within you, causing you to hold onto something that has outgrown its use in your life. Old habits die hard. You may also be a victim of fear preventing you from letting go of a relationship that you’re so accustomed to, whether it fulfills your needs or not. Self-honesty is your catchphrase. You need to make some rather bold sacrifices to let go of the redundant and create room for attracting the right partner to walk into your life.