You can be your very best. First, be specific. Write down everything from the house you live in, to the furnishings and location. The more specific you are, the better prepared you to plot your best life course. The following ways involve identifying your goals and changing your circle. Next, list the steps required to reach them. Using these two approaches, you’ll be well on your way to living your best life.
Authenticity is key
The urge to please other people is one of the most significant obstacles to authentic living. You may feel unhappy and alone if you allow this tendency to rule your life. You can overcome this problem by taking small steps. Be aware of what you are doing wrong and how you present yourself to others. For example, by noticing how you may be introducing yourself to others, you can start by developing your sense of authenticity.
If you don’t feel authentic or are unsure, it is a good idea to seek help from a coach or friend. If you think that being honest may lead to judgment, try to research the issue and see if you can improve your authenticity by being more open and vulnerable. You may be surprised to find that you have hidden something and haven’t realized it. Instead, learn from the experience and build authenticity in a new way.
Listening to others
Developing the art of listening requires that you practice. You must be present and aware of what is going on in the other person’s head. Whether you are listening to a friend or an important client, not knowing what you will say next can make you appear uncaring and aloof. Instead of focusing solely on yourself, listen to what other people say. Act as a test taker and ask questions to understand better what the other person is trying to say.
Acknowledging someone’s words can let them know that you care and are attentive to their needs. It doesn’t have to be a big gesture, but it makes them feel like you’re paying attention. Try to recall the speaker’s words mentally if you have trouble focusing. This reinforces the speaker’s view and helps you stay focused on their words. It is important to let the speaker know you listen but agree with them.
Changing your circle
Shrink your inner circle. Spending time with people you do not value is a waste of time. Spending time with people you don’t value can lead to wasted time. Your life can be affected by the time you spend with your friends. Focusing on your goals instead of wasting time with friends can help you achieve your dreams and become the best version of yourself. Your inner circle should be filled with women who encourage you and challenge you to become your best self.
Refrain from making new friends. Start by creating a list of the people you would like to be friends with, then slowly remove them from your life. You should reject people who drain your energy. Then, consider reducing your time spent in unrewarding activities. You can gradually withdraw from these activities once you’ve reduced your time on them. This will help you refocus on the activities that bring you joy.
Identifying your goals
To be your best, you have to love yourself. Self-love is a catalyst for many positive outcomes. When we truly love ourselves, we show up differently in the world. Self-love motivates us to invest in our passions and relationships, tools, education, mentors, communities, and other resources. In the process, we will become our best selves. We can grow and develop by loving ourselves.
Amy Morin (editor-in-chief, Verywell Mind) says that scheduling review sessions are essential for goal setting. You must review your goals regularly to keep track of how far you have come. If you have made substantial progress, you may wish to set up a session with your goal-keepers. This will allow you to make adjustments and celebrate your successes.
Setting rewards for yourself
It is easy to fall into the trap of not exercising enough, so it is essential to set yourself rewards to help you keep up your workouts and stay fit. Rewards don’t need to be costly. Small pleasures can be just as valuable. You can take the time to attend a class or work out at home. While exercise is vital to keep fit, we often let it slip and get too busy. Setting rewards for yourself to be your best self will help you make time for it. If you’re able to spend an hour more, treat yourself with new equipment or clothes.
You might consider enrolling in a seminar or class that helps you improve your time with yourself if you have trouble finding the time. If you enjoy fitness, sign up for spinning classes or yoga. Signing up for these classes can give you time to unwind and relax while you work towards your goals. Alternatively, you could buy yourself a new set of bed sheets or schedule a coffee date with a friend. Setting rewards for yourself, regardless of your goals, is the best way to achieve them.
Accepting your failure
Embracing failure is often not associated with success. In fact, many people view embracing failure as a sign of weakness, giving in, or lowering your standards. But this is a common misconception. It is an opportunity for growth. Accepting failure is part of success. This gives us perspective and allows us to see that our success results from our efforts.
To reach your full potential, you need to push beyond your comfort level and accept failure. Embracing failure allows us to maximize our motivation, determination, and perseverance. We learn more from failure than from success, so embracing failure is vital for our development. Also, failure humbles us and helps us evaluate things more objectively. We wouldn’t learn from our failures and be able to take in the views of others without failing.
Dadhichi Toth is a revisionary astrologer who works with both Eastern and Western systems of astrology.
He is the founder and CEO of astrology.com.au and previous author of the best-selling astrology series of books for Harlequin Mills and Boon for 9 years.
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